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Fifteen minutes a week can stop a marriage drifting
The Weekly Marriage Check-In is one short conversation, once a week, built around four questions. It works whether your marriage is in a good season or a hard one.
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Why this exists
Marriages rarely come apart in a single argument. They come apart in ordinary weeks: the conversation put off until tomorrow, the thing you meant to say and did not, the week that was hard for one of you and the other never quite heard about it.
None of that feels like a crisis at the time. It feels like being busy. But weeks add up, and two people who love each other can find they have become polite, efficient and quietly far apart.
Nobody drifts on purpose. That is exactly why it needs something deliberate to stop it.
What you get
Four questions, four rules, and a prayer
Four questions you ask each other in the same order every week: what you appreciated, how the week actually was, one thing that would help, and a short prayer.
Four rules that keep it safe, including the two that matter most: you stop at fifteen minutes, and the person listening does not defend themselves.
A written prayer for the weeks when praying together feels awkward or the words simply do not come.
An honest note about what fifteen minutes a week cannot do, and what to consider if the check-in keeps going wrong.
It asks nobody to admit anything. A couple who are thriving and a couple who are struggling use it exactly the same way.
How it works
Three steps, and the first one takes a moment
Enter your email
We send the check-in straight to you. No cost, and nothing to unsubscribe from later if it is not for you.
Print it, or keep it on your phone
It is one page. Some couples put it on the fridge. Others just open it on a Sunday evening.
Give it fifteen minutes
Pick a time you can repeat. The same evening each week works better than whenever you both happen to be free.
Who wrote it
Sharlene Findley-Stewart writes Marriage Devotions by Sharlene, a devotion that has gone out every day for ten years without a break. She is a psychologist and marriage therapist, and she has spent more than a decade counselling married couples. She and her husband Joshua have been married for sixteen years.
This check-in comes out of that work rather than out of anyone else’s book.
Send me the Weekly Marriage Check-In
It takes a moment, and you will have it today.
Thank you. Please check your email.
We have sent you a short message asking you to confirm your address. Click the link inside it and the Weekly Marriage Check-In will arrive straight away.
If it has not appeared within a few minutes, please look in your spam or promotions folder, and add hello@vividlyinlove.com to your contacts so it does not happen again.
This is not counselling, and it is not a substitute for it. Vividly in Love offers encouragement and practical tools only.
Where safety is in question, safety comes first, ahead of the marriage. Vividly in Love is not a crisis service. Emergency numbers vary across the Caribbean. In Trinidad and Tobago: Police 999, Ambulance 811, and 800-COPE (2673).
For professional support, Sharlene’s counselling practice, Vivid Resolutions, works with adults and couples across the Caribbean, online and privately: vividresolutions.com.