Loyalty, Trust, and Emotional Security · Day 2 of 21
Becoming Someone Your Spouse Can Trust
Scripture reading
“The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.”
Proverbs 20:7, KJV
Teaching lesson
She had told him that she would take care of an important call. When he asked about it that evening, she felt tempted to say it was already done. She intended to do it first thing in the morning. He might never know the difference.
Instead, she admitted that she had forgotten and explained when she would make the call.
The task was still unfinished, but the truth had been protected.
Trustworthiness becomes visible when honesty costs us something. We may have to accept disappointment, acknowledge a mistake or give up the comfort of appearing more dependable than we have been.
Proverbs describes the righteous person as walking in integrity. The emphasis is on a way of life, with a blessing that reaches those who follow. Whether or not we have children, our conduct affects the people who share our home.
Integrity invites our words and actions to belong together.
Your spouse should not have to discover the truth through repeated questions or information received from someone else. When something affects an agreement between you, bringing it forward honestly gives them a clearer understanding of what has happened.
That does not mean reporting every thought or surrendering all personal privacy. It means taking responsibility for the truth your spouse reasonably needs in the life you share.
If you have been unreliable in an area, begin there. Acknowledge the pattern without asking your spouse to dismiss it. Choose a practical change and allow your follow-through to speak over time.
You cannot require someone to feel trust before they have experienced reason to trust. You can keep becoming more truthful, responsible and willing to answer honestly.
Today, ask God to show you where the desire to protect your image is making honesty difficult. Bring that place before Him. Then take one step that allows your spouse to know the truth and see you take responsibility for what comes next.
Put it into practice
Together
Your challenge
Each consider one current agreement or unfinished responsibility. Give your spouse an honest update, including any delay or mistake, and state a realistic next step that you will take responsibility for completing.
On your own
To reflect on
- When I fall short, am I more concerned with appearing dependable or with responding honestly?
Prayer focus
“Heavenly Father, help us walk in integrity within our home. Give us courage to tell the truth when we have fallen short and humility to accept responsibility. Teach us to become trustworthy through honest words and dependable actions, one day at a time. In Jesus' name, Amen.”
With love and prayer,Sharlene
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