When Isolation Becomes Normal
Addictions
Day 17 of 21 · Monday 18 May 2026
Scripture reading
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, KJV
Teaching lesson
Addiction to Isolation
They lived in the same house.
Shared the same bills.Slept in the same bed.Raised the same children.
But emotionally, they were living separate lives.
He kept his thoughts to himself.She stopped sharing how she really felt.
At first, it was just a way to avoid conflict. But over time, isolation became normal.
No deep conversations.No checking in.No real laughter.No honest “How are you really doing?”
Marriage was never meant to be about two people surviving side by side. It was meant to be two people walking together.
Ecclesiastes reminds us that two are better than one, because when one falls, the other can help lift them up.
But your spouse cannot help lift what you keep hidden.
In many homes, we are taught to “be strong,” “don’t complain,” or “just handle it.” But silence can become heavy. And sometimes the strongest thing you can do is open your heart.
Isolation says, “I’ll deal with it alone.”Love says, “Let me come closer.”
Your marriage does not need perfection.It needs presence.
Together
Your challenge
Spend 15 minutes today asking each other, “How are you really doing?” Listen without interrupting or correcting.
On your own
To reflect on
- Have I been emotionally withdrawing from my spouse?
Prayer focus
“Lord, help us not to live separate emotional lives. Teach us to come closer, speak honestly, and support each other with tenderness and patience. Amen.”
With love and prayer,Sharlene
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