Identifying Strengths and Problem Areas
Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away
Day 2 of 21 · Sunday 12 April 2026
Scripture reading
“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. wicked…: Heb. way of pain, or, grief”
Psalms 139:23-24, KJV
Teaching lesson
Before a marriage can grow, it must first be understood.
Many couples focus only on what is wrong. But healthy growth comes from identifying both strengths and problem areas.
Think of it like this:
A couple argues frequently about chores.The issue may seem like “who does more,”but underneath, it may really be about feeling unappreciated.
At the same time, that same couple may:
Support each other financially
Care deeply for their children
Still show loyalty
These are strengths.
If we only focus on problems, we feel discouraged.If we only focus on strengths, we avoid growth.
Balance brings clarity.
Together
Your challenge
Each partner shares:
2 strengths in the marriage
1 area that needs improvement
On your own
To reflect on
- Do I focus more on problems or strengths?
- What is one issue I may be misunderstanding?
Prayer focus
“Pray for clarity to see your marriage honestly and hope for growth.”
With love and prayer,Sharlene
Vividly in Love offers encouragement and practical tools, not counselling. If your marriage is in a season that needs professional support, Sharlene’s counselling practice, Vivid Resolutions, works with adults and couples across the Caribbean.
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