Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away · Day 3 of 21
The Myths We Believe About Marriage
Scripture reading
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
Romans 12:2, KJV
Teaching lesson
Many struggles in marriage are not caused by reality, but by beliefs.
There are common myths that quietly shape how couples think:
“We already know everything about each other”
“Love should be enough”
“If I have to ask, it doesn’t count”
Consider this real-life example:
A wife expects her husband to help without asking.He assumes she will tell him if she needs help.
Both feel disappointed.Neither communicates.
The issue is not love; it is expectation.
Healthy marriages require:
Flexibility
Curiosity
Willingness to learn
Your spouse is still growing.So are you.
Put it into practice
Together
Your challenge
Discuss one expectation you have never clearly communicated.
On your own
To reflect on
- What assumptions am I making about my spouse?
- Am I open to learning new things about them?
Prayer focus
“Pray for renewed understanding and openness in your marriage.”
With love and prayer,Sharlene
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