Loving your spouse and liking them are not the same thing, and the second is easier to lose. Noticing again, speaking well of each other, and guarding against contempt.
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 1They were committed to their marriage. They shared responsibilities, remained faithful, and continued doing what needed to be done. But somewhere along the way, they stopped enjoying each other. They still said, “I love…
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 2She could quickly name what frustrated her about him. He could easily describe the habits he wished she would change. Neither spouse was inventing the problems. But disappointment had become the lens through which…
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 3He handled something for the family that he had done many times before. She noticed, but said nothing. Later, she made an adjustment that helped his day go more smoothly. He appreciated it internally,…
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 4The comment was meant to be funny. Everyone laughed, but her husband became quiet. On another occasion, he described one of her weaknesses to friends as though it were harmless conversation. She smiled in…
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 5She felt most appreciated when everything was completed. When the house was organised, the responsibilities were handled, and everyone was satisfied, her effort was noticed. He felt valued when he was producing, providing, or…
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 6At first, their differences were interesting. One was spontaneous while the other planned carefully. One processed thoughts aloud while the other needed quiet. One enjoyed a full room, and the other recovered best in…
Liking, Appreciating and Enjoying Your Spouse · Day 7The disagreement was not unusual. What made it painful was what followed. An eye roll. A mocking laugh. A sentence delivered as though one spouse were foolish and the other were clearly superior. The…