Letting Romance Grow With You

Teaching lesson

He planned the kind of evening she had loved when they first married.

There would be music, a late meal, and time away from the house. He wanted her to feel pursued again.

She appreciated the thought, but after a demanding week, the late night felt exhausting. What she had been longing for was a quiet breakfast together and an afternoon without rushing.

His affection was sincere. Its expression needed to become more attentive to the season they were in.

In Song of Solomon, the beloved offers a tender invitation to come away. The words express delight in the other person and a desire to spend time together.

That desire deserves room within a marriage as the years pass.

Romance can grow in its thoughtfulness. The gestures that once felt exciting may need to change as energy, circumstances, and preferences change. Learning what feels loving now is part of continuing to pursue each other.

Ask your spouse what helps them feel cherished in this season. Their answer may be simpler than you expect.

It may be an affectionate message during the day, a walk at a comfortable pace, a favourite meal, or a few moments together when neither person is distracted.

Practical care can also make room for romance. Sharing an unfinished task may help a tired spouse become more available for connection, provided that help is freely given rather than treated as a purchase of affection.

Let tenderness remain an invitation. Neither spouse should feel obliged to respond in a particular way because the other has made an effort.

If a gesture misses the mark, speak kindly about the intention and honestly about what would help. There is room to learn without turning disappointment into rejection.

You are still allowed to enjoy and pursue one another.

Ask God to keep your affection thoughtful. Let the way you express love show that you are paying attention to the person beside you today.